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Top 11 Tips for Overcoming Self-Doubt and Generating Self-Confidence for Public Speaking

Written by Coach Mike | Nov 13, 2023 6:27:00 AM

Public speaking can be a daunting task, especially for those who struggle with self-doubt and anxiety. But it is an important skill to master, not just for academic or professional success, but also for personal growth. With the following tips, parents can help their school-going children overcome their fear of public speaking and build self-confidence for the long run.


1) Prepare in advance:

Encourage your child to practice their public speaking skills prior to the actual event. They can rehearse in front of a mirror, family members, or friends. This will not only help them improve their delivery, but also build their confidence.


2) Know your audience

Assist your child to gather information about their audience to help them calibrate their tone, language, and message. This will make their audience feel that they are being spoken to directly, and boost their self-confidence.

3) Use positive self-talk

Our thoughts have a powerful impact on our actions and feelings. Help your child develop an inner voice that is positive, reassuring, and supportive. They can use affirmations such as, "I can do this", "I am prepared", or "I have practiced this enough".

4) Dress to impress

Encourage your child to dress for success - something they feel comfortable and confident in. When they look good, they feel good, and this will translate into their public speaking presentation.


5) Incorporate humor

It's important to lighten the mood and keep the audience engaged. Encourage your child to use humor appropriately, such as anecdotes or jokes that relate to their topic. This will help them feel more relaxed, and reduce anxiety.


6) Visualize success

Visualization is a powerful tool to overcome self-doubt. Have your child close their eyes and imagine themselves delivering a successful speech to their audience. They will begin to believe in their abilities, and this will show in their presentation.

7) Breathe deeply

Deep breathing helps to regulate our emotions and calm our nerves. Encourage your child to take deep breaths before and during their speech. It reduces anxiety and helps them remain focused.


8) Focus on the message, not yourself

Public speaking can trigger self-doubt when we are focused on ourselves and not our message. Encourage your child to focus on what they are saying, and how it is helping their audience. This will shift their attention from themselves to the message they are delivering.

9) Get feedback

Feedback is crucial for improvement and building self-confidence. Encourage your child to seek feedback from their peers or teachers. This will not only help them improve their presentation skills but also help build their self-confidence.

10) Be authentic

Encourage your child to be true to themselves and their message. They should avoid trying to be someone they are not or speaking on topics they don't believe in. Authenticity will help their delivery feel more genuine and build trust with their audience.


11) Celebrate successes

Finally, remember to celebrate your child's successes, no matter how small. Celebrating reinforces their positive behavior and helps them build momentum towards overcoming self-doubt and building self-confidence.



Public speaking can be a challenging task, but it is an essential skill for personal growth and professional success. The above tips are designed to help your school-going child overcome self-doubt and build self-confidence when public speaking.

With practice, these tips will become second nature, and your child will develop a positive and confident attitude towards public speaking.

Remember, every small accomplishment counts, and celebrate each win with enthusiasm! Let's continue to encourage and support our children, as they grow into confident and successful adults.